Today I had the sad news that the husband of Betty Jo, my dear friend at Digiscribbles passed away unexpectedly on October 14. I can’t even begin to imagine how it must feel to lose your loved one and my thoughts go out to Betty Jo and her family.
Last year a close friend was taken seriously ill and to try to get a perspective on the fact of death I read Joan Didions book “The year of magical thinking”. It’s a beautiful but also devastating book in the sense that it is very precise and truthful and desperately honest about the feeling of loss and grief. She writes that “Grief takes us to a place none of us knows till we reach it” and I also felt when I read it that it took me places that I would not otherwise have gone – and in a way didn`t want to go! I had to put it down many times because it was too painful to go on reading but I always picked it up again. Reading it left me with an even stronger conviction that life is very precious and that we must always remember how little we know about what the future holds in store for us. Therefore we have to seize the day and tell our loved ones over and over again how much we love them.
Life changes fast
Life changes in the instant
You sit down to dinner and life as you know it ends.
Dearest Betty Jo, there are no words to encompass such sadness! But it is my belief that grief is a tribute to love. Those who can feel grief and bereavement are fortunate because they have loved!